To provide safety, shelter and education to victims of family violence, sexual assault, dating violence and other violent crime and to restore dignity and purpose in their lives while promoting public compassion and awareness to reduce violence in the community.
Know the Red Flags
Some consequences in life are obvious. Run out of bounds, get a penalty. Drive 40 mph in a school zone, get a ticket. Relationships aren’t that clear, but they do have their own consequences. Dismiss degrading words and actions by saying, “he’s not that way all the time,” “she’s just insecure,” “you know I didn’t mean to hurt you,” or “but he really loves me,” and they almost always get worse over time. Dating violence doesn’t start with a slap. And even if things never escalate beyond control and verbal abuse, the consequence is still serious – a loss of freedom, respect, happiness, and even safety. Things we all deserve.
You may need to raise a red flag if you see or suspect that one person in a relationship…
- Has gotten the other to the point where they’re “not quite themselves” anymore.
- Makes the other person constantly question their actions or personality.
- Calls or text messages the other person excessively.
- Monitors the other person by screening their call logs, phone bills or e-mails.
- Is always showing up unannounced at the person’s home, work or hangouts.
- Tells the other what to do, what to wear or how to act.
- Embarrasses the other in public or private through insults or degrading comments.
- Acts jealous a lot and frequently accuses the other person of things (cheating, flirting, etc.).
- Keeps the other person from doing the things they enjoy in life.
- Doesn’t ever want the other person to spend any free time with family and friends.
- Controls how the other spends money.
- Uses money as a tool to keep the other person from doing things – or to make them do things.
- Shows or hints at an explosive temper.
- Physically harms the other person, or threatens to.
- Forces the other person to do something sexual, even if it’s something the couple has done before.
- Threatens to harm themselves if the other person leaves the relationship.